Friendship and Friends!!

Do you remember this?

True friends are like diamonds precious but rare.

False friends are like common stones found everywhere!

Friends and friendship are not to be taken for granted. But how do you define one as a friend? What actions or expectations make you absolutely certain that so and so are friends and not acquaintances?

Are friends confined to family? Will family accept it when friends mean more than them? Is your partner your best friend? I believe that the reasons for failed relationships, is because they are based on the physical, emotional and financial and not friendship.

One needs to have a balance in what they bring into and what they take out of a friendship? Can a rich person have a friend on the other side of the divide? Ouch Ouch impossible? Never! It’s difficult? Who is your friend? Look at Oprah and Gayle? Get It!

So who are your friends? Have you really thought about it? What do your friends mean to you and you to them?

We start off with friends in the neighborhood, then in primary, then high school, friends at church, friends at college and friends at the work place or the club?

But somewhere along the line one takes a deep breath and wonders who really are my true friends? I have decided to embark on this journey today as it’s an important one to make. I am talking about the friend who will step in when you die, take charge and comfort the children? The friend who needs to talk to you almost every day and or see you? I have so many pop in friends I am looking for more as I get older.

So far I find seasonal friends hard to accept and even worse is the realization that the friend doesn’t really know me or share my pains. That has been hard to bear. Friend, friend who art thou, come through for me, not for the short haul but for my daily life. Do you know that I had a sleepless night yesterday? That I cried my head off and ran out of tissues? That you were not there for me and that hurt?

A girlfriend who has the potential to be a friend even though we don’t interact as much said to me of friendship recently, if you have one friend you are lucky, two you are blessed and three you a liar. Ouch ….

Let’s search for and treasure that meaningful friend with time, goals, and daily reflection if we are indeed to say we are friends?